I Looveeee My Friends

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A couple of years ago I wrote a blog post about my high-school tribe. This past couple of weeks I’ve had the chance to spend more time with my friends and I realised that what I wrote before is still held true. To be honest, I can say that I know a lot of people but I only have a few that I keep close to me. This is because I know that the connections you have with people are important as they shape who you are. My friends keep me grounded and they have helped me be the woman I am today. I love how they love me unconditionally. Alhamdulillah, I am so grateful for all of the people that God has put into my life.

l can honestly say that my friends are the most genuine and down to earth people that I have ever met. And the reason why I feel so blessed to have them in my life, is that it is so hard to find real people in today’s superficial world.

We never ever gossip about each other or stab each other in the back and although it has been years (some more than a decade), since we have all been friends, we never fought or had any intense arguments. I love the fact how we are all so nice and kind to each other but give tough love when one of us needs it. I love how we can talk about anything and everything without being judged and we always lift each other up to be better people. We share some similarities but we all have our own good judgements and when we see one of us is going through a difficult time or going off track in life, they are always there to guide the way by reminding each other of who they are and the potential they have or they just give the best advice.

I also love how they are never mean to anyone and are non-judgmental so we never gossip about people. They are the type of people that you can always trust, rely on and they are so helpful and caring where they give but never expect anything in return. Just being with them makes you want to be a better person.

I really believe that the people that you surround yourself with is a reflection of who you are. So choose your friends wisely. If you are ever uncomfortable or pressured by certain people then it is best to not associate with them. Real friends are supposed to make you feel happy and better where they encourage you to do good things and never sad or down about yourself or makes you do bad things.

Sometimes (especially in our adolescent years), we think that being ‘popular’ will bring us happiness but in reality, having more friends does not mean you have good or close friends you can turn to in good or bad times. Therefore, it is so important to find your tribe of close friends that you know will always be there for you and are good for you.

 I have also met some amazing and beautiful women during my time in Miss Universe who I managed to become really close with and I hope that we will still remain good friends.

I have also met some amazing and beautiful women during my time in Miss Universe who I managed to become really close with and I hope that we will still remain good friends.

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There are times when I don’t see my friends for months but it’s amazing how we can still pick up from when we have left off. Each time we meet again it feels like we just saw each other the other day. Although our lives have taken different paths and everything has changed, the dynamics of our friendship doesn’t. This is when you know that the friendship is real.

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The people who are meant to be in your life will always gravitate back towards you no matter how far they wander.
— Anonymous

Each one of my friends are different and each have taught me so many different things or have been examples of the qualities that I always wanted to have. I think it’s important to have a mix of friends in your life because they keep life interesting and you’re more exposed to a range of perspectives. Find yourself friends that lifts you up, wants to see you happy, makes time for you, accepts you, respects you and remind you of all the things that you are. Again, never in my life have I fought or argued with any of my friends and I’m so lucky that the friendships I have are drama free. They were always there for me, especially in my times of need and I have made so many amazing memories with them. I don’t know what I would do without them and I can’t wait to make even more memories.

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I am ever so grateful for my lovely and beautiful girls that I have where I am proud to call them my friends. And I know that we will all be close friends for a years to come because as they say, if you have been friends for more than seven years, you will be friends for a lifetime. No matter what happens between us, I know for now that we have a lot of love for each other and I hope that love and friendship will always remain. Nonetheless, I pray to God that if and when I have my own daughter, she will have amazing friends like I do because I know that no matter what happens, she will be okay and will blossom into an amazing woman as well.

Nurul Shamsul